A mother never got to see her newborn daughter because she died from meningitis just 24 hours after her birth.

Wendy Moss, 38, had been complaining of flu-like symptoms to her husband Matthew.

She was rushed to hospital after he then found her collapsed at their home in Borrowash, Derbyshire.

Wendy died at the Royal Derby Hospital from meningitis just 24 hours after she underwent an emergency caesarean. her daughter Isla is doing well

Doctors performed an emergency caesarean on Wendy, who was seven months pregnant, to give her child a chance of life.

Isla was delivered seven weeks early at the Royal Derby Hospital, weighing only 4lb 4oz. mrs Moss died the next day on February 1.

Matthew, 30, said: ‘I didn’t know who needed me the most when we were in hospital.

‘I wanted to be with Wendy but at the same time we’d just had a baby girl. I went to see Isla and she was ok.

‘Then I came back to sit with Wendy. I knew the situation was extremely serious even before anyone told me.

‘I am truly heartbroken. Wendy never got to see Isla. she was very, very ill when we arrived at hospital.

‘I don’t know how I’m going to cope without her.’

Now, after two weeks in intensive care, Isla is recovering in hospital while her family mourn the loss of her mother.

Matthew, 30, is now bringing up Isla and the couple’s son, Archie, aged 21 months on his own.

‘My daughter is lovely,’ said Matthew, who is visiting her every day in hospital.

‘She’s feeding well.’

But he added: ‘The children will never know that they had the best mum in the world.’

Wendy’s family agreed to donate some of her vital organs and already know that her pancreas and a kidney have been used in a life-saving transplant.

Matthew, who lost the lower part of leg in an accident in 2001, said his wife had been very ill over Christmas and thought she’d got a serious bout of flu.

He said: ‘I was worried about her but she was just upset because she felt guilty about not being able to do family things on the weekends like going to the park with our young son, Archie.

‘I remember she cried because she felt so bad.

‘On the day she was rushed to hospital, I’d taken her to see the doctor in the morning. she was extremely unwell and I drove her home.

‘I left her for a while so I could go and get the prescription from the chemist.”Then I went to work for a while. when I came back a couple of hours later, I found her lying on the floor in the bedroom.’

Matthew, an accounts office manager, dialled 999 and a rapid-response car arrived at their home.

Wendy, an administration officer, was immediately taken to hospital as her condition deteriorated.

‘I didn’t know this at the time, but her heart had stopped beating in the ambulance,’ said Matthew.

‘When I arrived at the hospital she was wired to all kinds of machines and a dozen doctors were crowded round the bed.’

One hour after Wendy had been rushed to hospital, baby Isla was delivered by emergency Caesarean section.

‘Isla was rushed to the intensive care in the neonatal unit and was immediately hooked up to a ventilator,’ said Matthew.

‘It was during this time that we discovered doctors thought Wendy had suffered a massive trauma to the brain.

‘She was in intensive care and was attached to a life-support machine. she was given antibiotics and was taken for a scan where it was revealed she had meningitis.

‘The medical team who looked after Wendy were so fantastic. we want to thank them.’

The couple knew they were having a girl and were delighted with the news.they already had a son, 21-month-old Archie.

‘Wendy was thrilled to be having a daughter,’ said Matthew.

‘We discussed names and had decided to call her Isla. We’re going to give her Wendy’s name as a middle name now. we think that would be nice.’

Matthew said Isla now looks like his son Archie did when he was first born.

‘She’s been taken off her ventilator and is out of her incubator. She’s just in a normal cot.

‘At first the nurses were unsure when she’d be able to come home, but they are really pleased with her,’ said Matthew.

‘There is some talk that she might be out in around two weeks.

‘Her room is ready for her. Wendy had started buying a few things for a baby and the nursery was done. Wendy was always so organised.

‘I’m just honoured to have known Wendy. she was my best friend. she has two lovely children. we shared some amazing times together.’

The couple met when they worked together at a double glazing firm and married in 2009.

Matthew said: ‘I don’t think I’ll ever be as good a parent as Wendy, but I’m going to try.’

I am married for about 3 years. we had premature birth about 4 months ago and my baby girl died before birth. we had sex many times after that but last night my wife suddenly had to much pain and we stopped. What would be the reason for pain, plz someone help me here….

could be gas, or could even be her period coming on soon.
if it keeps coming back she should probably see her doctor.
also appendicitis is a possibility may not have anything to do with the sex

Pam Stenzel doesn’t believe in abortion, not even in cases of rape or incest.

Her reasons are very personal. Stenzel was conceived after her birth mom, at age 15, was raped. Despite the traumatic circumstances, the birth mom carried her baby girl to term. Stenzel, 47, grew up in an adoptive home, the oldest of eight children — seven of them adopted.

She shares her story openly to the half-million teenagers she talks to each year around the world. Her message includes another conviction: She doesn’t want another teen to tell her, “Nobody told me” about facts related to premarital sex.

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“I’m not here to tell you not to have sex,” she says in her presentations, some of them captured on YouTube. “I’m here to tell you the facts, and thenyou can decide for yourselves what to do.”

Stenzel, who has spoken to groups in Merced and elsewhere in the valley, and whose nonreligious videos have been approved for use in area school districts, is passionate about giving teens and young adults straight talk about sex.

After graduating from Liberty University with a bachelor’s degree in psychology, the Minnesota resident worked for nine years with young women in crisis pregnancies.

“One of the things we found out in the 1980s was, if there was a pregnancy test and it was negative, it was like, ‘See you later.’ we weren’t addressing the behavior,” Stenzel said in a phone interview Wednesday from her home. “We didn’t know about sexually transmitted disease (STD) issues. AIDS had just come onto the scene. I really felt we were not telling teenagers the reality of the consequences they were making.

“I would go to youth pastors and say, ‘I would much rather talk to your teenager in church on Wednesday night than in my clinic on Thursday morning.’ their reaction: ‘Not our kids. Not our church kids.’ yes, the church kids were having sex, too.

“My philosophy is not to make choices for teenagers. I’m not the sex police. I’m not going on dates with them. What we have to do is tell them the truth. they need to have the information.”

One fact she shares: although a condom can be effective in preventing pregnancy, it is far less likely to prevent an STD such as chlamydia. According to the Centers for Disease Control, about 2.3 million people in the United States have the disease, but most do not know it. although easily treated if caught early, the CDC Web site says, because “symptoms of chlamydia are usually mild or absent, serious complications that cause irreversible damage, including infertility, can occur ‘silently’ before a woman ever recognizes a problem.”

It’s that kind of information that Stenzel believes should be shared with teens. “Out of the 30 major STDs that we’re dealing with, 26 of them mainly damage women,” she said. “Does she know that? Does she know she’s going to be the one who will pay the price?

“We have the medical information, and it’s a travesty that we’re not giving it to (teens). I’m not going to tell you chlamydia is a big deal if it damages your fallopian tubes and you can never have children. I’ll simply give you the information. A girl can tell me, ‘No, it doesn’t matter.’ But she can’t come back 15 years from now and say, ‘I’m ready to have a baby now.’ Too bad; you made the decision when you were 15 and now you have to live with it.”

That kind of talk has led to charges from people in Planned Parenthood and SIECUS (the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States) that Stenzel uses scare tactics in her presentations.