If I were to tell you that things were going great with my Spanish girlfriend of 10 months, it would be a lie. If I were to tell you that we have our ups and downs, I would be getting closer to the truth. And if I were to say that when things are good, they are great and when things are bad, they are really bad, it would be pretty much spot on.

Sometimes I feel like my girlfriend and I aren’t compatible: she self-admittedly has control issues, and I self-admittedly can be slightly out of control. We grew up in completely different cultures, we have different ideas of God and religion, we usually don’t agree on politics, and sometimes we flat out just don’t get along. We are bordering on being in a love-hate relationship.but we do have a lot in common: We both love traveling, food, dogs, kayaking, hiking, gardening, and photography, and we have some overlapping tastes in music. like I said, when things are good, they are great!

My girlfriend is well aware of my attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD) and has taken steps to educate herself about ADD/ADHD. I admire that about her. she has read books about ADD/ADHD, visited multiple websites, and read everything she could get her hands on. she even introduced me to this website! but, after experiencing recent problems in my relationship — where some of my ADHD symptoms came up as potential causes for our issues — I realized that both partners have to come to accept not just ADD/ADHD, but also how it affects the relationship.

I know I am faulty. I realize I am not always easy to get along with. I know that I am more flawed than most. I have anger problems and a low self-esteem, I am easily distracted, I fail to follow through with things, and I hyperfocus on stuff I shouldn’t be focusing on at all. I have flaws. but so does everyone else on this planet, and sometimes I think my girlfriend forgets that.

In a lot of ways, the relationship has become more of a game or a competition between the two of us instead of what it should be. We should be a team. We fight and point fingers at each other. We focus so intensely on the other person’s flaws that we fail to see our own. thus things tend to go uncorrected. Gandhi had some good advice when he said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” If we can really focus more on improving ourselves and less on changing the other person to meet our needs, we might finally get somewhere.

Here is something we as ADDers need to accept, though: Relationship troubles are common among ADD/ADHD people. We need to accept that we are at a slight disadvantage when it comes to things like marital bliss. We can’t change how patient and understanding our romantic partners will be of our ADD/ADHD challenges. We can only change ourselves, and honestly that’s a good place to start.

if your no longer showing HPV symptons and started dating again, should you tell your partner that you were infected before having sex with them? how should that conversation go ?

woman, if you found out your boyfriend has or had HPV would a girl breakup or not date the person ?

they say 50% woman are infected, is this true ?

You are probably less contagious after a few years with no additional abnormal cell detected…the same would hold true of genital warts you would probably be less contagious after a year or so. You can’t guarantee that a new sex partner will not share your HPV infection. HPV can lie is a silent state for years after the initial infection.

I personally feel that being up front and honest is important in any relationship…the discovery that a person withheld the knowledge that they had/have HPV could cause serious consequences in a relationship that I had with the person…trust is the base of all good relationships…lies and deceptions are just not good with me…I am very open about my past HPV infection.

Yes you should share the information of any past abnormal pap smear or external genital warts with any new sex partner. The American Social Heath Association can help you with ways to tell a new sex partner.

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Yes 50% of the population

Some people only have one episode, while others have recurrences
When warts are present, the virus is considered active
When warts are gone, the virus is latent (sleeping) in the skin cells – it may or may not be contagious at this time
Transmission to sex partners with subclinical (invisible) HPV is not well understoond. Some experts think it may be less contagious than when the cell changes are not present.
Sometimes treatment may not even be necessary for mild cervical dysplasia. these cells can heal on their own and the health care provider will just want to monitor the cervix. HPV may then be in a latent (sleeping) state, but it is unknown if it totally gone or just not detectable.
It is important for partners to understand the "entire picture" about HPV so that both people can make informed decisions based on facts, not fear or misconceptions.
Condoms do not provide 100% in preventing the transmission of HPV
At least 50% of sexually active men and women acquire genital HPV infection at some point in their lives.
cdc.gov/std/HPV/STDFact-HPV.h…
At least 50% of sexually-active men and women will acquire genital HPV infection at some point in their lives, and at least 80% of these women will have acquired genital HPV by 50 years of age

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This immune response either eradicates the virus or suppresses it to non-detectable levels. Therefore, it is not yet known whether an HPV infection that appears to have cleared clinically is really eradicated or simply remains below the sensitivity level for detection with current molecular techniques.
Some HPV infections are thought to be suppressed and their genomes maintained in a long-term latent state (i.e., subclinical infection with a very small group of cells presumably maintaining infection at low DNA copy numbers). Support for a latent state for HPV infection comes from the observation that in some women genital warts can resolve spontaneously only to recur (i.e., reactivate) during pregnancy or when the immune system becomes compromised (e.g., HIV infection). it is not yet clear how commonly latency occurs in immunocompetent hosts, its ultimate duration, the circumstances and mechanisms that trigger re-emergence of HPV into a detectable state, whether latent HPV infection is ultimately eliminated in most individuals, or whether latent infection can persist, possibly leading to cervical cancer.

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I feel like I am at my breaking point. My relationship with my bf is not going well and I thought he was the one. This has led me to feeling extremely depressed, even suicidal. I feel like my life has ended in a sense. please help.

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If you are infected with an STD (sexually transmitted disease) of any sort, dating will need to be done with extreme care, honesty, and responsibility. while going to dinner and a movie is not going to be dangerous for either of you, there may be some complications that you will have to take into consideration as the relationship progresses to a more physical level. no matter how you’ve gotten an STD or who it came from, you have it now, and it is your responsibility to ensure that you aren’t giving it to others who you are dating. there are many different types of STDs and they can vary greatly in contagiousness, severity, and the times or circumstances that you can transfer it to other people.

One of the responsibilities that you have is to be educated regarding what you have and what the implications are to your health, as well as to the health of others. Talk to your physician and they should be able to give you some direction as far as where to go for more information. they also might have some handouts, such as pamphlets, that are informational. do some research on your own to gather even more information. The Internet is full of websites that cover every health issue you can possibly have. there are support groups online where you can discuss your concerns and questions to people who will understand what you are going through, while still remaining anonymous.

You have the responsibility to be honest with the people that you are dating and may get involved long-term with. while this news may not be required, or even really appropriate, for a first date, it will become absolutely essential if the relationship even approaches something more serious. a casual date is one thing, but the chance for something deeper is always there, so be prepared to be honest and share the information regarding your health issue.

As a person who has an STD, you will need to be more alert and careful than others about where your hormones are taking you. most people have a time in their lives when they do something seemingly without thinking. “Casual sex” should not exist for the person with an STD, but if a “one night stand” appears to be in the making, you will need to be ready to make full disclosure in an instant. your partner should be totally informed and protected. That is only fair.

Once you have talked things over honestly with your partner and have come to an understanding together, you will need to ensure that you have protection available for the time that you do engage in a sexual encounter. Condoms are typically the way to go with most STDs, but there are some that will not be protected against in this way. for instance, a woman who has herpes will only be contagious during an outbreak, but when she is, the condom is not totally reliable for protection for her partner. She should abstain from sexual relations entirely during this time. Find out what protection is actually going to protect your partner and use it, no matter what!

Having an STD is not the end of the world. It is not even the end of your romantic life. It is not the end of your sex life. It is, however, the beginning of some new habits and standards that you must adopt in order to ensure that this disease is not spread any further. Honesty, information, self-control, and protection are the most important components that you need to make a part of your life, both for yourself and for your potential partners.

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You are not wrong. He sounds like he sucks, no offince, but even so, he should be doing every thing to kiss your familys ass, for you. do you understand what i am saying. He is bad mojo. Loss him. You are in the right.

I think you are right. Family is very important and you say it yourself, not only are your mother and sister family, they are also you best friends. they know you really well, and maybe you should listen to them.

As for your boyfriend, well he’s been cheating on you and doesn’t treat you right. do you really want to be in a relationship with him? I don’t think that what you describe is a good, fulfilling, lasting relationship between two persons that are in love with each other.

Now, whatever you decided, your boyfriend and your family do not have to get along (even if it’s better if they do), but you shouldn’t be stuck in between them or have to choose between them. I think your boyfriend is wrong in asking you to choose sides and to treat you the way he does when you talk to your mother and sister.He has to learn to take responsibility for his mistakes and stop blaming everything on others.

ScienceDaily (Mar. 16, 2011) — Clinical depression can exacerbate the symptoms of knee arthritis beyond what is evident on X-rays, according to a new study from the Journal of Bone and Joint Surgery (JBJS). Patients with mild to moderate knee arthritis are especially affected by depression, the study notes.

"Knee osteoarthritis is a common cause of pain and impairment in older adults," said Tae Kyun Kim, MD, study author and director of the Division of Knee Surgery and Sports Medicine at Seoul National University Bundang Hospital’s Joint Reconstruction Center. "Often, the level of arthritic symptoms reported by patients is much more severe than what is represented by X-rays, which can make it difficult for the doctor to treat.

"the results of this study indicate that depression can play a major role in the way patients experience the symptoms of knee arthritis, and that even when X-rays show the arthritis is not severe, patients with depression may report significant pain," Dr. Kim said. "the relationship between pain and depression suggests that both should be considered by physicians when treating patients with knee osteoarthritis, particularly in those with X-rays not indicating severe damage to the joint."

The study included 660 men and women aged 65 years or older who were evaluated for the severity of their knee arthritis on X-rays, as well as symptom severity. Patient interviews and questionnaires were used to assess coincident depressive disorders. the study was conducted as a part of the Korean Longitudinal Study on Health and Aging (KLoSHA).

As expected, the researchers found the levels of pain attributed to knee arthritis were higher in patients whose X-rays indicated greater joint damage; however, they also found depressive disorders were associated with an increase in pain in patients with mild to moderate knee arthritis, even when X-rays did not show significant joint damage.

"when evaluating the results of this study, the contribution of depression to knee osteoarthritis symptoms was almost as important as the damage indicated on X-rays," Dr. Kim noted.

Knee arthritis typically affects men and women over 50 years of age, and occurs most frequently in people who are overweight. Common symptoms include:

• pain or stiffness in or around the knee;
• swelling of the knee;
• limited range of motion when walking or moving the knee; or
• knee weakness or a feeling of instability.

In more severe cases, the knee joint may appear deformed, such as bowlegged or knock-kneed appearance, either bulging outward or toward the side of the leg. Knee replacement surgery is often performed in patients with severe symptoms.

Although studies have indicated depression is not uncommon among older adults, it remains largely underdiagnosed. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH):

• The risk of depression increases with other illnesses and when ability to function becomes limited.
• Estimates of major depression in older people range from 1 percent to 5 percent among those living in the community, to as high as 11.5 percent in hospital patients and 13.5 percent in those who require home healthcare.
• An estimated 5 million older adults have mild depression, which is often undiagnosed. Symptoms of depression may include:
• feelings of sadness or hopelessness;
• loss of interest in activities that were once enjoyed;
• change in appetite or sleep patterns;
• difficulty thinking and remembering; or
• frequent thoughts of death or dying.

"Despite the reported satisfactory outcomes of knee replacement surgery a percentage of patients still experience knee pain and impaired movement," said Dr. Kim said. "Sometimes pain and disability after surgery is medically unexplained, so in these patients screening for depression might be a very good option."

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ok so ive been feeling really easily agitated lately and lettign it make me angry, nearly cost me my relationship, all along ive been looking to go to a counceler for advice on how to deal with my anger because i thought that was my only problem until a few days ago my mum took me to a doctor because i had a stretch mark looking lesion on the front sode of my shaulder beside my left pec that kept growing to about 4 cm in length over about 5 weeks, i thort it was because of lifting weights i may have strained too much and tore something but the doctor said its a fat tissue tear under the skin from a HORMONE IMBALANCE wtf? im 19 my hormones should be at there peak, i chose not to belive her until i get a second opinion, about 20 mins ago i started researching on the net about possible symptoms of a hormone imbalance in men and the doc was right i have 12 of the side effects on plenty of websites i visited (not wikipedia) including depression, irritability and thats why ive been getting angry, gettign pissed off at every little thing anyone does, fatigue, mood swings, depression, hard to concentrate, headaches migraines almos everyday, body fat around my waist thats been getting bigger ( im a fitness instructor and a proper program and a diet excersising everyday but i seem to be putting on fat and ONLY on my waist and thats a symptom, fat on my waist) erectile disfunction, i never really thought about it but sometimes wen im with my gf i cant get it up and wen i do i cant orgasm until almost 30 mins, only once a month or so. so im convinced now i do have a deficiency,

so my question is will this be a big problem for me in the long run? what should i go about getting it treated?
thank you

Never consult a female doctor on issues such as this.
Women think they know all about how a male functions, because they have read the relevant texts, but they often get it wrong.
Find a male doc and ask him.
To me it seems you may be taking medication and that is the cause of your problems.

Give the steroids a break

Link Found between Poor Sleep Quality and Greater Risk of Pain for Rheumatoid Arthritis Patients

Feb. 16, 2011 — People with rheumatoid arthritis (RA) who don’t sleep well face significant risks of greater functional disability due to pain and fatigue symptoms associated with poor sleep quality, a new study shows.

Researchers at the University of Pittsburgh studied the relationship between sleep quality and functional disability in 162 patients with rheumatoid arthritis. All patients had been diagnosed with RA for at least two years; their average age was 58.5 and 76% were female.

In addition, each participant had rheumatoid arthritis on average for 14 years. Data were drawn from patient questionnaires on sleep quality, depression, and overall health. Patients provided information concerning fatigue, depression, severity of pain, and functional disability.

RA Questionnaire

Results derived from the questionnaire showed that 61% of participants were poor sleepers; 33% reported pain that disturbed their sleep at least three times per week.

“The primary finding of our study is that poor sleep quality is associated with greater functional disability among patients with [rheumatoid arthritis] and this relationship may be explained by pain severity and fatigue,” says study researcher Faith S. Luyster, PhD, in a news release. Luyster is a research assistant at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine.

“These results highlight the importance of addressing sleep complaints among patients with [rheumatoid arthritis],” she says. “By treating sleep problems, either pharmacologically or behaviorally, symptoms and activity limitations associated with [rheumatoid arthritis] may be reduced.”

The researchers say their findings are consistent with other evidence that suggests that disruption of sleep may lower the threshold for pain, and also worsen it, in otherwise healthy adults.

The study is published in the Feb. 15 issue of the Journal of Clinical Sleep Medicine.

Rheumatoid arthritis is an inflammatory disease that affects about 1.3 million adults in the U.S., causing pain, swelling, stiffness, and loss of function in joints. People with RA have long reported problems with sleep.

Disability from joint disease in people with rheumatoid arthritis may limit their ability to walk, groom themselves, and write, and can be further affected by fatigue, pain, and depression.

Pain, Fatigue, and Depression

The researchers say it’s possible that disability may affect depression, pain severity, and fatigue, which affect sleep quality, but also possible that sleep quality may worsen pain and fatigue and increase risks of depression.

“Not sleeping well at night can contribute to greater pain sensitivity and fatigue during the day, which in turn can limit patient’s ability to engage in activities of daily living and discretionary activities,” Luyster says in the news release.

“Addressing sleep problems via pharmacological or behavioral interventions may have a critical impact on the health and lives of patients” with rheumatoid arthritis, the researchers write.

The researchers also say more study is needed to determine whether improving sleep quality can reduce pain, depressive symptoms, fatigue, and disability in people with rheumatoid arthritis.

Irritable bowel syndrome is otherwise shortly called as IBS. this condition is sometimes named as spastic colon. It is described as a functional disease always having the qualities of abdominal discomfort, may be with pain in the abdomen, bloating of stomach. in many cases, the patient does not have any organic cause and have alteration in the bowel habits and movements. The pain is relieved by bowel movements in some cases. The irritable bowel syndrome is classified as IBS-C, if the patients is having constipation, classified as IBS-D, if the patient has diarrhea and it is classified as IBS-A, if the patient has both diarrhea and constipation alternatively. Irritable bowel syndrome may appear after a forcible exertion of pressure on the mind by certain life events. It may also seem to appear after an infection. such type of irritable bowel syndrome is called as IBS-PI.

About cure:- several treatments are available to relieve pain and related symptoms. Medication, altered dietary pattern, physician advise, psychological changes, education of patient, mainly the good relationship between doctor and patients intervene, and gives good result in symptom disappearance.. however there is no treatment to cure irritable bowel syndrome.

Relationship of brain with the formation of the disease.:-a parasitic infection of abdomen, chronic constipation, chronic type of functional abdominal pain, giardiasis, malabsorption of fructose and coelic disease in some cases represent the character of Irritable bowel syndrome often and they mislead for irritable bowel syndrome. in certain cases the bowel seems to be very sensitive to certain type of stimuli and in many cases routine tests show no abnormalities. there is a common factor that increases the symptoms of irritabe bowel syndrome are the disorder of the brain in its behaviour of interaction with gastrointestinal tract. But, there are theories about the abnormalities of the immune system and gut flora. The definite and exact cause is not known till now.

The disease generally does not cause more serious condition: Irritable bowel syndrome does contributes to chronic and severe pain and it may even prevent the sufferer in going to their work. The study so far conducted and the researches carried out indicate that irritable bowel syndrome is the disease that may affect the quality of life in certain cases.

Speacial characters that determines the classification:-When the IBS individual is characteristic of having predominant diarrhea, it is classified as IBD-D. If it is mainly related with constipation, then it is called as IBS-C. The term IBS-A is used when the bowel habit alternates with constipation and diarrhea. The infections in certain cases causes fever, vomiting and the stool culture shows positive results and this type of post-infective syndrome is called as post infectious IBS.

The psychiatric symptoms intervene in irritable bowel syndrome:- It is found that about 60% of the patients encountering IBS are having depression and anxiety.

But, the primary IBS symptoms are abdominal pain, distention of the abdomen, bloating, particularly the bowel movement changes like constipation or diarrhea or constipation followed by diarrhea. Other symptoms include genitourinary symptoms, gastro esophageal reflux. they may also have backache, headache, fibromyalgia and chronic type of fatigue.

Risk factors and causes:- there are several theories have been submitted about the causes of Irritable bowel syndrome and it mainly described with gastrointestinal infection. The risk factors so far described are post-infection, young age, anxiety, fever and depression. But many theories so far published tries to connect the brain activity disorder in relation with gut. Brain-gut response stress and derailing of the brain -gut axis are some of the theories that explained the connection of brain activity with irritable bowel syndrome.

Rsearchers are doing more work on the causes of the IBS. Some researchers believe the overgrowth of the intestinal flora causes the disease. Others found that certain protozoa infection causes IBS. But they know only little things about the IBS causing protozoa and they agree that they have to study more to know the protozoa fully.

Blastocystitis a single cell organism which is the most important one that has been reported to cause Irritable bowel syndrome and it is identified as an organism that does not respond to common antiprotozoals.

Dientamoeba fragilitis is a type of single cell organism that causes IBS symptoms and it appears to respond to antibiotics.

Specific system of diagnosis:- there are no specific tests have been developed so far to identify or diagnose irritable bowel syndrome. a patient with IBS symptoms are categorized after ruling out lactose intolerance, celiac disease, overgrowth of gut bacteria and parasite infection. Colonoscopy is recommended for patients over 50 years of age.

Diagnostic algorithms:-Abnormal defecation and abdominal pain is a common feature in almost all digestive system disorder like inflammatory bowel disease, giardiasis, colon cancer and thyroid disorders and so also it is seen in irritable bowel syndrome also. a general guide line is followed to rule out other diseases like lactose intolerance, gastrointestinal infection and coeliac disease. after ruling out such disorders, a diagnostic algorithm is used for differential diagnosis. The popular algorithms are RomeI,II and III.

However, often certain diseases like helicobacter pylori, parasites and celiac diseases are mis-diagnosed for irritable bowel syndrome.

Effective management:-Antispasmodics, peppermint oil and fiber appears to be safe and effective methods of management. Diet restriction and lactose free diets seem to be more effective. a diet restricting fructose also gives more successful results.

Medication:-The medication includes laxatives in IBS-C, antidiarhheals like loperamide, codeine and opioid analogs are helpful in IBS-D.Antispasmodics like hyoscyamine and dicyclomine help in patients of IBS with cramps and diarrhea. Neurotropics like atropine and musculotropics like mebeverine are useful in treating IBS. Tricyclic antidepressants and serotonin antagonists are also effective for treating irritable bowel syndrome. Silicates and citrates of magnesium and alverines are commonly used in all types of IBS. The dopamine receptor blocker, domperidone is effective in reducing the bloating and pain in IBS.